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Table of Contents
Wisdom 1: Our Father
Wisdom 2: Receive God’s Spirit to Face a Scary World
Wisdom 3: Being Born Again in the Spirit
Wisdom 4: God Always Loves Me
Wisdom 5: True Love and False (Deceptive and Delusional) Love
Wisdom 6: Believe in the Light That Is in Yourself and One Another
Wisdom 7: Divine Direction Givers
Wisdom 8: Time
Wisdom 9: What We See Won’t Hurt Us
Wisdom 10: The Age of Innocence
Wisdom 11: Feelings
Wisdom 12: Desperate Times Do Not Call for Desperate Measures
Wisdom 13: Life after Death
Wisdom 14: Be Caring
Wisdom 15: Find Freedom through Serving
Wisdom 16: Acceptance and Unconditional Love
Wisdom 17: Working and Owning
Wisdom 18: Just Reach
Wisdom 19: Faith, Hope, and Charity
Wisdom 20: Keeping Your Sanity
Wisdom 21: Worth and Deservedness
Wisdom 22: Honesty
Wisdom 23: Forgiveness and the Depth of True Love
Wisdom 24: Living in Confidence
Wisdom 25: Bringing Heaven to the World
Wisdom 26: Exercising Today’s Glory
Wisdom 27: Divine Provision and Progression
Wisdom 28: Recipe for Life
Wisdom 29: The Paradox of Life
Wisdom 30: Unifying God’s Children through Missionary Work
Wisdom 31: The Book of Life
Wisdom 32: The Key of Life
Wisdom 33: The Meaning of Life
Wisdom 34: The Goal of Life
Wisdom 35: Accepting Yourself the Way You Are
Wisdom 36: Discovering Your Center
Wisdom 37: Leaving a Legacy of Love
Wisdom 38: Do the Right Thing
Wisdom 39: Hope and Dreams
Wisdom 40: Being an Average Joe
Wisdom 41: I’m God’s Friend
Wisdom 42: Embracing Change
Wisdom 43: Trust
Wisdom 44: Viewing One’s Life from Above
Wisdom 45: The Weight of the World
Wisdom 46: Pearls at Work
Wisdom 47: Faith and Grace
Wisdom 48: Don’t Fear Being Useful
Wisdom 49: The Process of Come and Go
Wisdom 50: Women and Grace
Wisdom 51: The Greatest Wisdom
Wisdom 52: All Roads Lead to Heaven
Wisdom 53: Some Wisdom to Help Set You Free
Wisdom 54: In Your Pursuit of Reasons Why
Wisdom 55: I Am Here for You
Wisdom 56: Happiness
Wisdom 57: Duality vs. Individuality
Wisdom 58: Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places
Wisdom 59: What Is Normal?
Wisdom 60: Where There Is Love, There I Am, and so too Is My Kingdom
Wisdom 61: Am I a Deliverer, a Peacemaker?
Wisdom 62: What (Whose) Family Do I Belong To?
Wisdom 63: Believe in Your Dream
Wisdom 64: Discovering Your Purpose in Life
Wisdom 65: Love Calms All Storms
Wisdom 66: “Lighten Up”
Wisdom 67: Ask God for Help
Wisdom 68: Be in the Now and Be Nice
Wisdom 69: Your Defining Moment
Wisdom 70: Respect Is Part of Falling in Love
Wisdom 71: To Err Divine
Wisdom 72: Find God and Find You
Wisdom 73: Impressing God
Wisdom 74: The Three Truths to God
Wisdom 75: Walk Not by Sight but by Faith
Wisdom 76: Try Not to Be Perfect
Wisdom 77: Let Us Not Avoid, Deny, or Fear Life
Wisdom 78: Stay Calm and Do Not Panic
Wisdom 79: Listen Not to Undisciplined Children
Wisdom 80: Believe Too That You Can Be Intimate
Wisdom 81: The Ten Man in the Woods
Wisdom 82: Rest for the Weary
Wisdom 83: Restoring Peace in Your Kingdom
Wisdom 84: Finding the Bridge to Happiness
Wisdom 85: Staying Home
Wisdom 86: I Love You
Wisdom 87: I Mean Everything to You
Wisdom 88: Good-bye and Farewell
In my life, I have searched for answers everywhere I could. I traveled over land and swam in oceans. I searched the outermost reaches of my mind. I studied and pondered over my logic and my emotions. I tried to figure out “why” when it came to suffering. I even looked up at the stars wondering. And I never found an answer. And then I sought God and found the answer I was looking for that opened up the door. And then I realized that all along, through it all, I was and still am just my Father’s child, heeding my Father’s call from my Father’s home, and never had I been alone.
My parents divorced when I was seven. Afterwards, I had no father, only a man who would come around maybe once every few years.
Much later in life, believing in an unconditionally loving God (I AM), I felt compelled (called) to face my greatest fears of abandonment and loneliness. My journey on the river had begun. I heard I AM telling me to move out on my own. And so I did with the full intention of leaving everybody behind. I was scared to death. It was my time in the Valley of Fear deep inside the World of Pride. You’ll sometimes hear me call it a desert or woods from where I make it back to the river as described in my book “I AM on the River of Life”. But after, I heard I AM say to me that He was proud of me and that I was always such a sweet little boy in His eyes.
My biggest problem was that I did not love myself because I didn’t understand the meaning of unconditional love. I did not know what real love meant and how real love was to be shown and received. But it was during this time, in what I call my desert, that I found what unconditional love meant. I found that unconditional love meant God. I could say that God’s spirit just filled me. I felt strong and alive, and I felt like I had crossed a bridge into a new world of my own where I was growing up.
So I went back home. And soon after, I heard this voice again telling me to write down what I should have been taught when I was a child. I was to become an adult. My own I Am was going to raise me as my father. So I Am shared Himself with me for years after, and I wrote down everything He told me. And after each thing He said to me, I practiced it in the real world. I then went to the Bible and found a loving affirmation on what I had done. It didn’t take very long to discover that this was the real me, human and all.
This book highlights the secret wisdoms of everything I wrote and everything I learned along the river. I list eighty-eight of them with some personal examples. I hope you find strength and comfort in all of them.
I don’t expect you to see them as gospel. By all means, test them out for yourself and discover your own unique perspective. You may even discover more. In this way, you will perfect mindfulness, which is the awareness of what is going on now and how it spiritually relates to you, i.e., what lesson your spirit is trying to teach you while asserting your way through fear.
By the way, if you would like to know about my experience in the Valley of Fear, you can listen to my hour-long testimony on my YouTube channel.
‘Tis thee O my Father,
Confused in what is real.
Lost to my wits and seeking out others,
For my soul to heal.
Following this and following that,
And yet to no avail,
For here I reappear.
Of this place I know no mercy,
Of this place I know Nowhere.
Comfort me, my Father,
For I know not where to go.
Deliver to me your Truth,
So I will not feel alone.
Show to me your hands,
So that I may come nestle in your arms.
And make for me a bed,
As a newborn safe and warm.
Wisdom 1: Our Father
It has been my experience that it is best to believe God to be unconditional love if you believe Him and in Him. God is pure love, and His Son, Jesus, taught us, God’s children, what love is and showed us how to attain it by way of the Holy Spirit. God loves you, and He will never forsake you in His love. Only after thirty-three years did I realize that this love is what enabled me to face the world alone.
It has been my experience that the real world can be scary. Seeking the Spirit within you will help you face and overcome this fear. Receive the Spirit of God and the Spirit will lead you to your Father in you. And you will be filled with the fearlessness of the Spirit, the Holy Spirit, the Spirit of Truth, the True Counselor, the Wisest Guide who takes you the wisest way to truth.
For years after my trauma when I suddenly stopped breathing at two years old, I used to have this recurring dream that I was very tiny and two women, just as tiny, were on either side of me. It was night, and we were outside this office-like building. A very tall man in white all of a sudden walked in front of me, and I left the women to follow the man. So I followed the man into the building and down a great hallway where there were many doors on either side. He opened one of the doors and a bright light shown from it. He went into the light as I approached it. I heard him speaking to someone in the light, and I no longer felt scared. But as I turned to see who it was in the light, I’d always wake up.
Later I realized this was my dream protecting me from life and, at the same time, showing me that love was out there and to that I should keep seeking it. The man in white was Jesus. The someone in the light was God my Father. The light was my fearless spirit, and the women were angels.
It has been my experience that the Spirit is made of unconditional love. He will not allow you to remain in abusive and destructive relationships. He will give you the means to reflect the love and inner beauty you now understand. One day after confronting my own abusers, I felt this incredible spirit like it was constantly on fire and warming me from inside. I realized on that day that it was truly a gift from God and that the flame you see within yourself is a mirror of your true self. And you know that that is God shining back on you. You will energize and be energized. You will be in love and feel loved forever. You will live for happiness. You will care because you will be caring. With all my love, I felt God’s name is Wonderful.
It has been my experience that God loves us no matter what. God, by way of His Son, Jesus Christ, has taught me that I must first believe that I am of infinite worth so that I can choose to rely on the drive and guidance from the Holy Spirit, which is His will given freely to me. Then, from that, I will be guided on the right path and begin to feel valuable and deserved. I have found that just by doing good deeds without the feeling of the love of the Holy Spirit is still just a deed and is unfulfilling.
This I learned from developing my own twelve steps with the guidance of the Holy Spirit. I studied the Bible for years until I perceived a path that Jesus-the-Man took that I too was taking as I was healing. I prayed and did what God told me to do at each step. I realized along the path that just doing what God asked me to do wasn’t enough. I had to feel His love inside me to make the deed genuine. And unfailingly, I would dig deep inside me and always find this love.
It has been my experience that there is only one thing that fulfills a person’s soul. This one thing is true love. The problem is that false love can fill a soul just as much as true love can. This is because whether it is really false love or true love within, you honestly believe it is true love. The difference is that if you are filled with false love, your mind has come to accept that love is full of misery and suffering. But false love is deceptive and not true love. If you are filled with true love, your mind has come to accept that love is joyful, endearing, and hopeful even through suffering. False love dictates that you are not endearing to God. True love dictates that you are God’s most endearing pleasure. False love keeps you dependent on the world; the way you feel is dependent upon how you think the world sees you. False love makes you think that God wants nothing to do with you because the world must accept you first before God ever could. True love is independent of the world; the way you feel is dependent upon knowing and accepting God’s unconditional love, intimacy, and grace for you and in you, regardless of how the world thinks of you or feels about you.
One day I decided that seeking my own unconditionally loving God and surrendering to Him to teach me about life and living was the only way to truly heal and feel whole again. And the point of no return in doing this was by asking for help—by confessing those secrets way down deep that I feared may come back to hurt me.
It wasn’t easy to confess. It was embarrassing, and, at the same time, I felt as if I was a failure. The question I had to ask myself was, “A failure to whom?” Who made all these rules in my head that I felt I had to live up to? I may have got many of them from others. I may have even thought that I should think like this because of how someone reacted like that to me. But the crux of it all was that it was me who stored all those rules in my own head, and it was I who was trying to live up to these delusional standards.
It has been my experience that people who truly love us want to “get” us, but many times, it is we who are afraid to give up who we are—or should I say think we are. People who truly love have surpassed exterior appearance and connect with our souls. They want to be intimate with you. If you are giving to others from the outside without having searched your own soul, they know it. And they cannot get what you have yet to give them.
At times, we are afraid to give up who we are. We think that others will take the little bit we have. But if you are not serving others in true love, you don’t know who you really are. And you probably know this because your actions and your feelings and thoughts wrestle with each other. If we can search our souls, giving ourselves up to the teachings of the Holy Spirit (the Light of God) and then act faithfully to His demands, we will soon begin to give up who we think we are and “get” who we really are.
It has been my experience that women in the love of the Lord, through their Holy Spirit, are divine direction givers to you and divine direction receivers from God. To seek direction from your spouse in the Lord is one of the greatest things you can ever do for yourself and your personal stability.
It has been my experience that because God’s time is precious, so is yours. When you believe and have unstoppable faith that God owns time, you live in His time and in His kingdom on Earth, and then you can see miracles most days of your life. We must discern between our voices from the past and God speaking to us out of love in the present.
It has been my experience that God matures us by way of His Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit becomes our teacher. And as we mature, we see things in a way we haven’t seen them before. And our new sight will never hurt us but keep us safer and better off.
When I was a little boy and I was afraid, the only way I could get to sleep was to imagine myself lying in a space within a bubble with God standing on the outside of it telling all those bad things trying to get in to “Go away! My Child is sleeping.” And I not only slept, but I rested. Well, living a happy and peaceful life is pretty much like this. But now instead of God saying, “Go away! My Child is sleeping,” I’m living instead. As I matured with God, I stopped being so scared because I knew God would always be there for me.
It has been my experience that Eden is the age of innocence. We are innocent when we are children, and especially if we were born into unloving homes, blameless in our desperation to survive. With information and understanding of the ways and problems of the world, we leave our innocence. But through Christ and our reliance upon the Holy Spirit, we overcome the world. We strive in our true search for pure love and away from arrogance. And as we journey in this way, we come to understand that, compared to God, the older we get, the less and less we really do know and the more the child are we to Him. This brings us back into an age of innocence, obedience, and purity in which we realize that we lack nothing.
It has been my experience that all feelings are permissible, though not always beneficial or therapeutic. But all feelings can bring us closer to God when we become accountable to them.
Sometimes I feel like leaving my wife or escaping into another life that is totally peaceful. My wife and I have a wonderful relationship. We can talk to each other about everything. So I admitted this to her, and she understood. We all feel like this from time to time. But after I admitted this to her and she understood, I felt better and not guilty or ashamed anymore. She accepted me as I am, with all my doubts and feelings. Sure, if I acted on my feelings at that time I’d be in a pretty desperate situation. But because of this feeling and expressing it to someone, especially the person I was having the feeling about, I felt closer to her and more in love. I felt closer to God.
So why is this? Because admitting your feelings keeps you on the path to becoming a true adult. If we can deal with our feelings constructively, then we will eventually realize that those who are passive or aggressive towards us, unbeknownst to them, actually helped us caring people become loving people like my wife. And it is this love that helps us who are less mature become true adults and, by definition, find true freedom and a greater peace. And when we come to realize this, we too realize the miserable life those others must have, and we can become more forgiving and patient with them when finding ourselves around them in the future.
It has been my experience that when we are desperate, we take desperate action. Pray and become patient in His time. Even His other children might be managing for you now what you are to receive later, but you will only find it in His time.
One day I was scuba diving with my buddy on a science expedition. We were about seventeen miles from shore and thirty feet under the water. Our job was to gather cement blocks thrown over the science vessel in order to build homes for marine life. As I was building these block homes, I noticed that I hadn’t seen my buddy in a while. I had a feeling that if he was lost, he might just be panicking. So I wasn’t going to panic. I just wanted to find him.
I stayed calm and did a circular sweep of the area. After each time I circled around, I went out a little farther. After several times circling around, I saw a blur in the distance. I started swimming toward it and discovered it was my buddy swimming in the opposite direction of where we were working. He had to be at least two or three hundred yards out. I was able to catch up to him and shrug his leg and wave him back. He looked pretty scared and surprised as he looked back at me. He looked panicked and disoriented. Later, he said that I saved his life because he didn’t have much air left in his tank.
I would not have stayed calm and found my buddy if I hadn’t known God’s love and empathized with my buddy’s distress. This is when I discovered that even in desperate times, staying calm is the best way out.
It has been my experience that God has always found us worthwhile because He had always wanted us to have Him in us. He will never give up on us. And because of this, we will continue to live on forever in Him when we have Him.
It has been my experience that caring is a part of true love. Anyone who loves us will provide guidance but not fix us by asking us to do it their way. Anyone who loves us will support us and, at the same time, empower us to make our own decisions. Anyone who loves us will see the path we are taking and share with us their experiences over their similar path, but then they will allow us to make our own decisions over which path to take and allow us to pursue it. Anyone who loves us will love us unconditionally no matter what path we go down but might not be able to bear the sight of our own destruction if the path will kill us instead of leading us to love.
Assertiveness is the most caring part of unconditional love. Assertiveness says that when you need something, I’m going to stop what I’m doing and help you get it. Assertiveness says that when you want something, I will acknowledge you and call a meeting of all who are part of the decision-making process to discuss your want and if it is doable at this time for all involved. There might be some conditions that we all will have to agree upon, and most of the time, you’ll get your want in some form or in part. Sometimes the answer to your want will be a definite yes and sometimes a definite no and sometimes a maybe. If you don’t want to do it, your no is enough. It doesn’t need to be justified. If you are telling a child no, it should be accompanied with why you say no. And that should be enough. All maybes should be accompanied by an honest and deliberate attempt to provide a timely response.
It has been my experience that our greatest purpose on this earth and the greatest legacy you can leave in your lifetime is to help serve someone in a purpose set forth by the Spirit in him. There are so many children and grownups who feel enslaved to the dirt inside them. Give to them your own testimony in love so that one day they can feel clean and worthy themselves.
It has been my experience that there are two things that appear homogeneous to what people desire: acceptance and unconditional love. Unconditional love is love from others no matter what we do. And “no matter what” means that we are always worthy to be listened to and be taken seriously.
It has been my experience that God is your employer. Take in faith that the job He offers you with all your heart is the one you need to follow and perform. Nobody owns you but the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit and nobody will set you as free either. Remain working and living within the love God gives, and you will find all the freedom you desire.
It has been my experience that a man is by no means perfect. But all a person has to do is reach his hand to the Lord, and He will take him into the light and into His Will that is love.
When I am feeling lost, I ask God to come to me and He does. He gives me clarity and wisdom, even if it is in just one word. And I find peace and rest. For instance, just the other day I was feeling anxious about some major changes. People I knew lost their jobs. Others had to move. I was in the middle of a critical time in a project at work. And it just happens that, in these times, I forget that I have God to go to. Then I remembered, and I asked God to come to me and give me his wisdom. He said to me over and over again, “Just rest. I have you.” My nervousness went away, and I slept like a baby that night.
It has been my experience that love is going to where others are and building them up with the love you bring to them in servanthood (faith, hope, and charity) in the place they are. Thus, you place yourself in and become a part of their world even if it is only for a time. This is so you will know what true love really is.
It has been my experience that in order to keep your sanity, keep it simple and stay grounded and you will persevere through the toughest times. Continue to be patient, kind, supportive, concerning, encouraging, merciful, truthful, protecting, trusting, and hopeful and you will find your way.
It has been my experience that worth is not deservedness. Deservedness is a result of earned acting and dwells within our minds. Worth is a result of being and dwells within our hearts and souls. We are all worthy as God’s children.
It has been my experience that there is only one true way to develop a nurturing relationship with Jesus Christ. We must be accountable for all we do and all we have done. This means that we must be incredibly honest with ourselves and with others in our intentions, why we act the way we do in fear or otherwise, and why we think the way we do. If I am dishonest with others, I am dishonest with myself. And if I am dishonest with myself, I am dishonest with others.
It has been my experience that it is best to, at least once in your life, be with one you love and one you’ve forgiven as they pass. Find the legacy they leave you through the gathering of those who have come together from all over at the time of their death. Do you see that even at the time of death, they leave the legacy of life? Serve them when they need you most, and you will see the depth of true love.
In 1997, my aunt died. During that time, my family was in sorts with one another. There was a lot of in-fighting and conjecture about this and that person. Even my aunt who died had a very strained relationship with her father. But at the funeral, family came from all over, even her father. We all held hands and cried and found some kind of lasting bond. To this day, she is still a common base of conversation and love. She left a legacy of life for each one of us.
It has been my experience that logic does not substitute for faith. The more logic I place as a substitute for faith, the more control I wish to have and the longer I stay away from what God’s purpose for me is. Gain who you are by way of the Holy Spirit and come to know who you were created to be. We must come to not assume but know forthright that communicating love from our hearts counts immensely. There is only one way we can feel and know we are unconditionally loved, and that is through forgiveness, by knowing, undoubtedly, that we were made human and are always supposed to be. And once we feel forgiven, only then will we become confident in who we are supposed to be.
It has been my experience that it is our responsibility as God’s Children [Christ-Spirited] to brighten the lives of everyone around us. We do this by providing everything in our power given to us by God through our Holy Spirit, which we glimpse a little bit of heaven by. You do not need the greatest talents to send the greatest love. But it is important to know that love does not come out of obedience (you cannot draw love from a turnip), but obedience comes out of love. We need to know and feel the love of God within us first before we can serve the needs of others. But when completed in your maturity with and by the spirit within you and you are thus married to your spirit, then you will see that God will deliver you as that heaven on earth. This will be the time of great peace within as you and your spirit become One because heaven-on-earth is not somewhere out there to be found. Heaven-on-Earth is You, and anything you deliver to others, in whatever form it may possess, is a gift from the Heaven that God lives in. Your job then is to physically deliver love given to you by Love in the Spirit of Love through the spirit of your love in you.
It has been my experience that a person needs to follow Christ and thus be attentive in the present. When we know God, our time with Him is in the present and He will take care of our future as we follow Him.
It has been my experience that God knows us inside and out and has provided us everything we need within our own makeup to live a healthy and happy life. Until we receive the Holy Spirit, these provisions lay hidden from our view, waiting to be energized. It is essential that they be dug up so that our own holy identity draws more and more complete to us.
It has been my experience that we cannot expect, besides it being impossible, to rely on and stay under absolute authority of another’s personal view and formula for living a healthy and spiritual life. I am speaking of personal view, not God’s omnipotence and absoluteness of authority. Because we have God, we are allowed to live holy, and the Holy Spirit is just that: holy. Whatever we do by its authority we do holy and become in oneness and perfection with Christ.
There is no one personal view that will make us complete. There is no single weight loss program. There is no single book by a spiritual earthly author. There is no single manmade anything that will get us over our woes and feelings of emptiness. There is no single person. There is no single purchase. There is no single view, period, because they don’t involve you. You cannot feel complete without being humble enough to become one of the ingredients in the mix and mess that is humanity. And then you will have your own recipe for life.
It has been my experience that life is a paradox. It is so because God’s way and our way are opposite. When we are asked to do God’s way, we have a difficult time seeing how it possibly can work because it contradicts human nature. But it does work magnificently. This is what I know:
When you want to speak, take the time to first listen.
When you want to act, take the time to first reason.
When you want to get even, first ask yourself why the other is at odds.
When you want to leave, serve even more.
When you want to have more confidence in yourself, make greater strides to have more confidence in God and others.
When you want more control in your life, give up more control to God.
When you want to love someone else, first receive God’s love that He freely gives you.
When you want to place conditions on people, go abide by the conditions God has placed on you.
When you want to love someone, but only if they do what you want, remember that God loves you even when you do not do what He wants.
When you want to discern good from bad as an adult, place yourself in the mind frame of a child.
When you want to have more of your own time, live more in God’s time.
When you want to be fulfilled in love, humble yourself and serve others.
When you want to become a greater leader, become a greater servant.
When you want to cry for yourself, cry for someone else.
When you want someone to come over, first go and knock on their door.
When you want to seek something new but remain unchanged, let God tear down what is old so you might find what is new.
When you want to stop your life from crumbling on a weak foundation, let God continue to demolish it so He can create for you a strong foundation to build upon.
When you want to focus on the end, live the journey.
When you want to rely on people to be fulfilled, depend solely on Him.
When you want to be angry with God and leave Him, remember that God always loves you so that you will want to obey Him even greater.
When you want to run and hide, remember that God is with you wherever you are and knows already where you’re going and is here and already there at the same time.
When you want to be truly meek on the outside, first find God on the inside.
When you want a child to obey the law, trust that the child has the law within himself and allow him the freedom to find it.
When you want to be free, know your limitations and live within the boundaries God has set up for you.
It has been my experience that life is a growing process. It is a journey. We tend to learn more about life and ourselves over time and, thus, gather insights that expand our views in loving matters. This is healthy growth. Unhealthy growth is when we fight this. We then usually wind up grumpy and unhappy people with little social skills later on.
I find that missionary work is the most valuable and most realistic way to transcend ourselves.
We must see people as unique planets we have yet visited within one great universe. In this way, we, as missionaries, can take the next step and ask permission to visit and then stay with them as guests. We must then take the next step and become friends and till the soil together. And rather than force our views on them, we must continue our friendship in love.
How many times have I had people, especially young people, wanting to proselytize to me? A whole bunch. Not one time has any one of them ever just said, “Can I help you with something?” and let me be. If you want to know what true unconditional love is, give to people what they need and let them be.
It has been my experience that life is like a book. The beginning is God in heaven. The middle is the journey through life on earth. The end is God in heaven. I once believed that the journey was a series of stops and go’s. Life is easier when one realizes that the journey is just one go until we stop. It is difficult when we try to control life by stopping something only to start up something else over and over again. It is much easier to adjust ourselves to what we see coming, accept its humanity through God’s graces, and then apply what we have learned for the betterment of ourselves and others.
It has been my experience that our faith in God and Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit, providing to us the purest love, is the key that opens the door to our own lives.
It has been my experience that receiving love and communicating love is the meaning of life.
It has been my experience that to achieve oneness with the Lord and with each other by way of our Holy Spirits now and in everlasting life is our overall goal.
It has been my experience that we search for who we are in our young arrogance and self-denials and wind up embracing ourselves through the Holy Spirit. Once we are fulfilled in God’s love, we transform from a heavy rock to a simple pebble. Then we are able to realize that the way we are and what we have done, are doing, and will do is simply just because of who we are.
It has been my experience that who we are is fine with who and what we have become. We come to a proud yet humbled moment in our lives when we don’t have to prove anything to anybody else but ourselves. And we care very little if others agree with us or not. We do what makes us happy and holy, and we feel happy about it.
It has been my experience that love is an offspring from God; thus, we are love. And because of this, we are our own legacies.
It has been my experience that in those times when we find ourselves concerned only with ourselves, it is best to search for God and listen as He communicates His Words to us. And then we can do the right thing. When we find ourselves developing animosity toward others, be the greater servant. Do the right thing. When we want this most specific job and that greatest position, be content with a good job and a moral position. Do the right thing. When we want this thing or that thing, be content with what is useful. Do the right thing. And when we want tomorrow to come quicker, find something that adds love in our lives today. Do the right thing.
It has been my experience that you will never be able to plan your life better than God has planned it for you. Three things matter in this world. They are faith, hope, and love. Be content with being yourself common in the now because it is there that you are perfect.
It has been my experience that God opens the doors that develop our lives. Some doors are for saints, some doors are for leaders, and some doors are for heroes, but most doors are for the average Joe. And each of them is equally good in God’s eyes.
It has been my experience that when one has a friend in God and God chooses you as His friend, then there is no more trying to meet His expectations. My friend will die to see me become complete in love. So if it is needed, God will die for me all over again so I can become complete in His Love, and so will I for Him.
It has been my experience that all changes are positive because they are opportunities for growth. In our continual need to control our surroundings, we come to fear that which we will never be able to control, and that is change. We must come to accept change, embrace change, and delight in change so that we can delight in God.
It has been my experience that if you first trust others, they will come to trust you. If you first serve others with a trusting heart, they will come to serve you with an equally trusting heart. Trust a person that he or she will do the right thing, and he probably will.
It has been my experience that no one really knows what they are doing and that some people are actually behind where they started. There is a mountain we all must climb to see where we are in the scheme of things in order to proceed. It is there that you realize that everyone else is just as knowledgeable in life as you are.
It has been my experience that the entire weight of the world is not to be on any of our shoulders, only the weight of that space you occupy now. It is wise to understand that you will become miserable and stay in misery if you are always trying to conform to the world’s so called “holy” rules that mandate fairness and equality when the world’s rules are stacked against you. And they are by those having fun at our expense, literally and figuratively. Having fun is much better than carrying such a burden (responsibility) upon yourself. If there is to be a burden, then let everyone, even the rich and powerful, share that burden equally. The immature and ignorant who have the spirit judge the world trying to convert the size of the world’s pie of unholiness into the much smaller holy piece of it. Unknowingly, they are playing the game of the world’s deceivers so to carry as much of the world’s burden as possible. However, the mature and wise who too have the spirit judge nothing and thus think nothing of playing within the deceivers’ outer reaches invariably realizing that the vast majority of what the so called holy and unholy world says is unholy is not unholy. Remember, even the devil knows the true boundary between holy and unholy from once it fell, and easily controlled are those immature and cocky.
It has been my experience that to fight to please people leads us down a slippery slope. We do not know what the future will hold, but it is in our working diligently within the journey that counts and where we can enjoy the fulfillment of each day’s work. This will leave us content, at peace, and fulfilled. And though it’s good to be generous, we need to know our limitations.
For example, I have obsessive–compulsive disorder. In the workplace and at home, I can want to fix people and be generous to a fault. I’m a hard worker, but I can also get wrapped up into wanting to go outside my mission at work and meddle in other people’s affairs. However, I’ve learned to use my OCD to find opportunities to be generous. But it is also at these times I use my twelve steps to think it through and decide whether I am being too generous and exceeding my acceptable boundaries. This would leave me without the means to live well and be happy.
It has been my experience that faith only gets you so far and that forgiveness gets you the rest of the way. My faith does not know my heart and my needs. Only God knows my true heart and needs. And without Him, my faith finds me empty.
It has been my experience that serving without others receiving your communication is meaningless and communicating to those who do not want your service is wasteful. It is best and most useful to just be yourself.
It has been my experience that people come and go. They come into our lives, we share our souls, and then they go farther into their journeys. Remember how fortunate we are to enjoy the time we share together rather than ponder over the time when we must part.
It has been my experience that a godly woman is given to men by God’s grace. Find a woman and settle down. Pray for a woman who is noble, grounded, trustworthy, and strict to her morals. Find a woman who says no more than once, and you will come to respect her. Find a woman for your emotional stability. Whatever God gives us, He gives by grace. So appreciate grace, accept grace, but never take grace for granted. Learn from her teachings. Step back and watch her motions. See how inquisitive; how thoughtful; how sometimes steady her thoughts, her sorrows, her neediness and yet her convictions, her rebellion, and yet her submissions. And yet, with a shrug of her shoulders, a droop of her head, and a glare into your eyes, you can do nothing but melt. Encircle her as the earth encircles the sun and soak in her radiance. A sincere woman to a man is like snow that falls upon a wintry tree. Her purity awakens him with only a touch.
When I was younger and wasn’t aware of God in my life, I dated a woman. All I wanted was to be her friend, but it quickly became much more. We’d have sex every day and sometimes four or five times a day. This was the only fulfilling pleasure in my life at the time. It went well with my destructive tendencies stemming from my OCD, although I didn’t know I had OCD at the time. I even cheated on her when she was away.
I kept telling myself to just fall in love with her. She was a really nice person that I wanted to be with and really get to know. But it just didn’t work that way. I couldn’t get over the physical pleasure. I regret I don’t even remember her middle name or her favorite flavor of ice cream. I don’t even know if I asked.
Then I married a woman that over the first seven years of our marriage—seven years before my thirty-third birthday—she’d say no to me four or five times a day to many of my boyish desires. We’ve been married twenty years.
It has been my experience that the greatest wisdom is to realize that someone else might be wiser in at least one area than you. Then you will find life less of a struggle.
One day, a few years ago, my friend called me, and I met up with him. He told me that he was convinced that there was no one who could understand him or understand life better than he to help him. So I said to him, “Wouldn’t a wise person realize that there’s more than one way to solve a problem and that others may have a different perspective on things? It’s not that they are smarter or wiser than you. It’s just that they may have a different way of looking at it. Wouldn’t a wise man at least ask?” My friend thought about it for a while and said, “Yes, a wise man would ask.”
So he told me that he would seek out his old therapist just to discover her perspective on life. A year later, my friend called me up and said, “I just wanted to let you know that the week before we talked, I decided I was going to kill myself. But your words helped me do otherwise.” This shocked me, but I can say that my friend is a happy person today with a job he loves and a gift that he loves providing to others.
It has been my experience that it is better to find a longer route that is calm and free for worship than to force yourself to accept the shortest route that is ridden with fear and constant misery. There is no guarantee that the shortest route will get you there quicker, but both the longer route and the shorter route lead to the same place. Do not be ashamed to take the longer one, but instead embrace what it has to offer along the way.
It has been my experience that a virtuous person can help set another person free. And a person who doesn’t see the importance of acquiring virtue will make it important enough to try to use it against you. Here is some wisdom to help set you free.
The most useful thing to do … ……..Act
The greatest Joy………………….. ……..Giving
The most satisfying work…………. …Helping others
The most endangered species……………….Respected leaders
The greatest “shot in the arm”………………Encouragement
The greatest problem to overcome……… ….Fear
The most effective sleeping pill……….. …Peace of mind
The most powerful force in life………….. ……..Love
The deadliest weapon…. The tongue
The two most power-filled words……………”I Will”
The greatest asset………….. …Faith
The most prized possession…………….Integrity
It has been my experience that in our pursuit of reasons why, belief turns into hope, hope into faith, faith into humility, and humility into love that ends our pursuit.
It has been my experience that Jesus is the light of the world. Whoever follows Him will never walk in darkness but will have the light of life. If you believe in Him, He will give you hope. If you walk with Him, He will help you persevere. If you learn from Him, He will reveal to you who you truly are. If you give yourself to Him, He will show you where you belong. If you praise Him, He will set you free. And if you adore Him, He will be your peace forever.
It has been my experience that happiness comes from hearing and obeying God. There is a difference between the Spirit of the law and the Letter of the law. A person who only sees the letter of the law will be tempted to disobey it. This leads to unhappiness. A person must understand the spirit of why the law was created to want to obey it.
For instance, the letter of the law for a stop sign is that you must stop at this stop sign, period bottom-line. People tend to get aggravated when others try to tell them what to do. These people will most likely, at least from time to time, not stop completely at the stop sign. But when the same people realize that someone loved them enough to place a stop sign there so that they would be safe, then aggravation turns into a thankful heart. People will then be more apt to obey the law, which leads to happiness.
It has been my experience that the world is in constant duality (dueling), needing a protagonist and antagonist, good versus evil, mano y mano, man versus nature, man versus himself, right versus wrong. And then there is heaven. Where there is love, there is God, and united is His kingdom.
It has been my experience that there are people who are incapable of giving you the love you desire. Only God has the power to change them.
There was an instance in my life when I was young and had a girlfriend. We were thinking about getting married. She belonged to this religion and I didn’t. So not really thinking anything of it because a church is supposed to be love no matter what, I went to classes with her and became confirmed in that religion. As time went by, I noticed that I couldn’t find much unconditional love in this religion and decided not to identify myself with it. Later when I wanted to make friends and reconcile through my own unconditional love for them, the church said that they would pray for me because I was in mortal sin. And until I did these deeds to get back into the church’s good graces and remarry my now wife within the religion, I would stay in mortal sin.
Needless to say, I found and still find no unconditional love from that church. They had been around for centuries and still are adult-children, with dogmas and traditions passed on from generation to generation without ever seeing the big picture. I came to them in love wanting them to join me in love. But to them, in their own words, “My love was not that of God, but of something else.” This was definitely a wrong place to find love. I have nothing against traditional religion, but I actually continue to find more unconditional love from people outside traditional religion. It has been my experience that the one and only true sin is choosing to See Inside Nobody.
It has been my experience that it is normal for a person, from birth to death, to grow in direct intimacy with God. It is abnormal (abusively normal) to place a human in the way.
It has been my experience that if we believe that the Law of Love transcends all law, then our choice is made clear which one to follow. And it is best to pray for those who will not listen rather than stay with them for eternity.
Remember that staff sergeant I eventually had to confront? I talked with him after I came back from my recovery in the clinic, but I knew I couldn’t work under him for my own peace of mind. My immediate supervisor was kind enough to transfer me to another shift. Many years later I found out that the Staff Sergeant had severe mental problems and was forced into an in-patient mental health facility by the military. Whether it was Post Traumatic Stress Disorder or another illness, I knew something just wasn’t right even back then.
It has been my experience that people will unify if their common goal is peace. There is always an opportunity to love and pour out positive energy to people each day to promote this goal.
It has been my experience that a family is virtuous because it does not fear transcending law in the name of intimacy and unconditional love. A virtuous family understands that a new creation evolves over time in a process of faith and grace to which a loving, gentle, and compassionate person comes forth not through demands, not through intimidation, not through anything instantaneous nor correction of any kind but through a process of faith accompanied by mercy and in working hard with God in such faith. Yes, a virtuous family is one who works hard at their love with God’s constant and unconditional love and merciful grace.
It has been my experience that the love you dream of is actually you. May you follow God and realize your dream.
It has been my experience that when you love someone greater than yourself, you don’t mind changing (sacrificing) your ways so that you can be in the right disposition to be there for her when she needs your help.
When God started to teach me what I should have been taught in childhood, I realized what a true man was. A true man is someone who is not afraid to find love, be loved, and to love. He is someone who seeks stability for his family. He creates peace within himself so that he can be there for others going through hard times as a calm and supporting force.
For the first seven years of my marriage, I didn’t know if I loved my wife or not. I didn’t really even think about it much. But when hard times hit, I heard a voice in me saying to follow it and detach from my current ways of doing things. I left everything and lived just with God until He was done disciplining me in what love was. After a few months, I felt love and went back to my wife. And from that time on, I’ve always done whatever it takes to be the most stable person I can be in order to be there for her as a calming and supportive presence.
It has been my experience that people are usually stubborn and emotional because nobody has truly ever listened to them. Ask those who are stubborn to teach you what they know and you will usually have a friend for life.
It has been my experience that, even if the world thinks you’re silly and an outcast, the Spirit in you says, “Lighten up and go find who you are. If you knew me, you’d be able to stand yourself.” What I have found out to be important is letting people be as they are. There has come only one Savior, and my purpose is to follow him and not fall in the trap of others who continue to go through life reaching for that elusive carrot.
It has been my experience that God allows us to see what is available to us. If you can’t find the traditional materials to build a traditional bridge, build a non-traditional bridge. The goal still remains to get to the other side. We must always be striving to meet our goal by consciously being aware of traditional and non-traditional means with the courage to pursue both.
It has been my experience that you don’t need anything else but what you have and are doing now. And you will be happy if you are nice when you do it. Just be a nice person.
It has been my experience that every day, you have defining moments. And sometimes you have really big defining moments. If you bump into someone coming out when you are going in, collect yourself in God’s calming presence. Always go away with who you are. Define each defining moment by your defining presence.
It has been my experience that only by understanding the genuine person will we be able to feel a respect for them down deep. Where understanding is a connection of each other’s minds, trust and respect is a connection of each other’s hearts, and love is a connection of each other’s souls.
It has been my experience that the best things in life come from human error. It is from this human error that if we sit patiently enough and trust that it is all part of God’s plan, we can learn and then experience (understand more) the greatness of God. It is because of human error and our trust in Him that we are able to love Him even more. From error comes glory when we rely on our Father and His true and unconditional love for us. We are sanctified but not afraid to err to know Him even more deeply.
It has been my experience that an adult-child never believes himself worthy enough to know God. He doesn’t think himself worthy enough for God to be within him and embody him. However, a true adult allows himself to acknowledge Jesus to help him find God and thus come into his own.
It has been my experience that God only needs what He asks you for and no more. God and a woman came to the shore of a great ocean, and God told the woman, “My child, go find us a canoe.” The woman looked a little bewildered but said, “Yes, God,” and off she went. In a little while, she came upon a canoe and said to herself, This canoe is okay, but if I got God a ship, how glorious that would be! God deserves a ship, not a canoe. So she went off and searched for a ship to bring God.
Three years later, God looked over the horizon and saw a ship coming his way. And as it drew closer, God saw the woman sail the ship and anchor it offshore. When the woman stepped on shore, she approached God in all gladness and also all bruised, broken, out of breath, her knees wobbling and arms dangling at her side. “For you, God. Here is your ship you so richly deserve! And now we can traverse the ocean in comfort and style and ease.” Exhausted, the woman then fell to her knees before God.
God said to the woman, “My child, you didn’t need to go through all that trouble. I needed the canoe I asked for so we could go down this small river over here to get to the ship you brought me.”
It has been my experience that the first and greatest truth is that God is the Creator of you. The second greatest truth is that God is in you. And the third greatest truth is that God is for you. Knowing these three truths lets us know that we were created to belong, and are never alone. God did not create us to be alone. We might feel alone only because we haven’t traveled with our Father yet, but we’re not alone. Only the lies we believe about ourselves and the life we’re leading keep us alone in our view.
It has been my experience that if you only walk by what you see, you can come up with every excuse in the book to stop from going on, especially if what you see ahead is dark and full of fear. Walking by faith means that nothing is too difficult to go through because you have the Spirit always with you, guiding you and lighting the way.
It has been my experience that God does not need us perfect; He needs us human. If we understand that God needs us human and we allow ourselves to be human, then we’ll be okay with us and everyone around us being human too. It is then that we know we can succeed at whatever we set out to accomplish.
It has been my experience that there are both caring and uncaring people in the world. We belong in a world that is caring, a world that includes all of God’s creations, and a world that is empowering and loving. Don’t avoid it. Seek it and find it by taking a walk inside yourself.
There are three heavens in this Kingdom of ours.
As a Child: The first is that having a mind of a child where you imagine or fear the real world.
As an Adolescent: The second is that having a mind of an adolescent where you experience the real world in fear.
As an Adult: And the third is that of an adult where you are wise to the real world and have overcome (no longer fear) it. As an adult, you then bear fruit (your wisdom) to the world through a child where you become a parent or through some other form or fashion where you become a teacher.
As a Parent or Teacher: The first is where you teach the children about the real world so that they may understand and prepare for it.
As a Parent: The second is where you go through the real world with the children allowing them to face their fears and expectations without punishment or smothering. It is then that, like God with you, you accept the entire child as truly human (good with the bad, perfect with the imperfect, sinless with the sinful). And then afterwards, devote your time to raising the children in all areas of the real world for them to become wise to the world’s ways.
As a Friend: And the third is where your and your once child become friends as adults. It is here you let go and live in greater peace doing whatever you want and providing wisdom here and there when asked.
As a Spirit: And finally you live in full peace. Whatever type spirit you become, it will be for the benefit of God’s children and creatures.
But none of the above is possible or truthful if you do not have an unconditionally loving spirit on the inside and demand it in others on the outside. For the weak (fearful) will know how strong they are [by following their own spirit] and the strong (arrogant) will know how truly weak they are [by cowering before it].
It has been my experience that when we place ourselves in a situation that we are not supposed to be in, we start panicking. And afterward, we feel embarrassed and ashamed of ourselves. So we can either hide the truth, or face and surrender the truth. I have found it best to see this as an immediate opportunity to breathe, stay calm, and perform the latter. There is nothing to be ashamed of when you tell the truth. People are supposed to love you unconditionally and forgive you, as you would do them.
It has been my experience that a child—even an adult who still thinks like a child—needs discipline (wisdom) so that he will stay on the path of grace. But too harsh the discipline, and he won’t trust grace. And so he won’t trust life. He believes grace is only a trick for someone to get something else later down the road. And he believes that life is really just out to get him any way it can. Too light the discipline, and he never thinks he needs grace. This is why discipline must be loving, and part of being loving is being stern (assertive and not aggressive).
I have a godson [friend] and nephew who are both [is] ten years old, and I treat them [him] like they [he] are [is] my adopted sons. My godson’s [His] father, who was a soldier in the army, died about four years ago. He and his mother have had a tough time of it. He was also diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes a couple of years ago. Both are [But he is a] great, kind-loving kids. I practice disciplining them [him] how God disciplined me from the time I was thirty-three, when I started to become a true adult. I discipline them [him] with stern boundaries when I see their [his] developing manhood falling into question. I remember when my father and mother got divorced when I was eight years old and how I didn’t see my father [him] very often during that time. [But] I give my nephew and godson [him] loving hugs always. I don’t need to yell. They [He] know [knows] I mean business. I make them [him] think about what they [he] are [is] doing just like God made me think before I did what I was doing. And I did know better. But each [my friend] also knows that I love him, and I can be a lot of fun to do stuff with. This is the balance I’m speaking of.
It has been my experience that intimacy (falling in love and having someone fall in love with you) is what everyone yearns for, but most are too afraid to gain or show it. It doesn’t matter how smart you are or how religious you are. What matters is how much you want to change by way of the Spirit. In other words, what matters is if you have the courage to fall in love. Remember that God is love. God is the Spirit of love. So when you fall in love, you’ve become intimate with God. And anyone can gain the power (esteem) to fall in love. This is why God gave us a loving Christ (Spirit).
It has been my experience that these ten principles will help get you where you want to be in life, as a man or woman of God.
Know that God is your true Father.
Know that your Father is in you.
Know that you are beautiful to Him.
Allow your Father to comfort you.
Allow yourself to follow Him.
Allow yourself to connect with Him.
Always tell God the truth, even if you find it hard.
Allow God to restore you from you.
Always talk with God on how you feel.
Always know that God will respond to you kindly and lovingly.
It has been my experience that life is really not that hard. What’s hard is having the faith to keep it simple, to live within your own means, and to relax. People who are suffering have a hard time in life, especially in times of hunger, anger, loneliness, tiredness, and boredom. These states bring about a lot of anxiety and desperation and give no rest for the weary. So when you are hungry, eat. Don’t worry about how fat you’ll become. When you are angry, talk. Don’t worry about who will ever believe you. When you are lonely, share. Don’t worry if no one else wants to. When you are tired, rest, even if others think you are lazy. And if you are bored, sit. Eventually, something will come to you. If you can be confident in doing this while knowing that God is still in love with you, you will have led a wonderful life.
It has been my experience that God disciplines us to help us define our boundaries and then helps us adhere to them for our own good. Once we define our boundaries, we start feeling more in control of our lives. God is a free-giving God. He wants us to grow up so that one day, we will, voluntarily and without fear, leave the nest. He wants us to feel free and live our own lives within heaven on earth. But first, we need to be disciplined within the boundary of the kingdom so that one day, we will be safe and secure in who we are. We need to understand our boundaries so that we can be decisive and decrease our stress. Jesus said to let your yes be yes and your no be no. In fact, really everything is no until we say yes.
It has been my experience that God makes me happy. Some of the secret wisdom I learned was to accept that which I cannot change, and this loosened me from my bondage. I gave up trying to fix other people. We try to fix people so that our own lives can be comforted again. Fixing is only an illusion of love. It really is a form of selfishness or selfdom rather than kingdom. By accepting this reality, I could breathe again, and I moved on, crossing my own personal bridge over into a world that was filled with peace and joy, His Spirit, and the glory of His love.
It has been my experience that once you realize that you will miss nothing on the outside and nothing on the outside will give you nearly as much satisfaction as what you have on the inside, you will always feel at home. Everything you need and desire will be given to you, just as God provided everything to Adam. God even brought to him the animals. Let God deal with whatever is out there. Anything “out there” is not yours anyhow. And once you are okay with that, you will know what it means to feel whole and complete and live free and in peace.
In the first seven years of my marriage, my wife and I moved five times from state to state, and we were about to move again. Finally my wife said to me, “You must promise me that our next move we’ll stay at least two years.” We wound up staying five years because it was during this time I heard God and heeded His voice to begin growing up. We moved only because I lost my job due to 9/11. And now I have a very stable job and stable family life with several friends and loved ones where I live. We’ve been here 17 years and married 28 years and going. So believe me when I say that there is nothing out there. All we do is run from ourselves when we don’t know where and who we are.
It has been my experience that there almost always comes a time in our lives when we come to the crossroads and say to ourselves that things just aren’t working out. It is here that the wise will usually ask themselves, What beliefs have I emphatically accepted in the past as truthful, and where did these beliefs come from, man or God? This is the beginning of loving ourselves.
It has been my experience that when God is and means everything to you—the beginning and the end and everything in between—you have a true friend in you. You are free to conceive and deliver ways to love others and yourself and be friends (build a home) without worry (fear) of rejection or condemnation. Your way of loving comes from the heart—from the Spirit of real love—and it can never be wrong. It is infallible. The kind of love you give with your Spirit within you is absolutely permissible and undeniably perfect. You have become perfected.
It has been my experience that sometimes letting go is the best thing you can do for another human being. Good-bye and farewell, my friend.